This book saved my life yesterday: Comfort Secrets for Busy Women.
I had been getting mean. I hated everyone, my partner, my life. Today I had to go back and edit one of my comments I posted recently on a friend’s Flickr page to remove the snark. It’s amazing how much you start hating other people when you stop listening to yourself.
The book just had me journalling a bit on the question “What do I really need right now?”.
And it’s not like the answers were huge. I hadn’t been ignoring some major suppressed calling. I just had been ignoring myself. Tuned out. Tuned to a different station. The “outside myself” station.
So if you are feeling freakishly mean, take a moment to relax with yourself. Stop telling yourself what you should do, what you need to do, what you have to do, what is wrong with you. And just ask yourself what you need right now. And listen, quietly. Attentively.
And it’s not about excavating or analyzing. The content of the answer doesn’t matter as much as the spirit in which you listen. It’s not about getting the answer. It’s about asking the question.
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August 15, 2009 at 7:59 pm
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June 19, 2009 at 8:15 am
marsha shenk
Lovely
A great reminder
One year I set my alarm to go off every 30 minutes, to remind me to ask myself, “What would have me Over the Moon right now?”
I so agree with you - it’s not the answer that matters; it;s the listening